In a co-parenting arrangement, each parent often has scheduled parenting time. When this time begins and ends, it is necessary for one parent to meet with the other to exchange physical custody of the children. You should not leave the location of your custody transfer to chance.
When writing your parenting plan or making other co-parenting agreements, you have the opportunity to designate the location of the custody transfer. By asking yourself a few simple questions, you can select the right place to transfer your children.
Is the site neutral?
It may be tempting to exchange the children at either your new home or your ex-spouse’s. Doing so, though, may be cause friction. This is especially true if you are not on good terms with your ex-husband or -wife. Picking a neutral location is usually a better approach, at least until you and your ex-spouse adjust to your co-parenting arrangement.
Is the site convenient and accessible?
Unless your post-divorce residences are far apart, neither you nor your children’s other co-parent should have to devote considerable time or effort to reaching the transfer site. Therefore, you should choose a spot that is convenient, accessible and roughly equidistant between your home and your ex-spouse’s residence.
Is the site safe?
Most importantly, you want your transfer location to be safe for you, your children and your ex-spouse. Picking a well-lit and weather-appropriate site makes sense. Remember, an ideal transfer site may be a place you regularly visit, such as your children’s school or a local shopping center.
While working with your spouse to find the right transfer location may be a difficult part of your divorce, it is worth the effort. After all, by agreeing on a safe, accessible and neutral spot, you boost your odds of having a stress-free custody swap.